PATIENCE MAKES US FUNKY
NOVEMBER 19, 2010. Yoga has without a doubt made me more patient. Don't get me wrong sometimes it's still hard but for sure I'm better at it. What's changed? Well I don't want to feel that TUG-O-WAR with myself or with anyone else. Impatience doesn't feel good and yoga teaches the antidote to impatience is, yes you can guess, patience. Patience feels good. It feels like a return to center no matter the chaos or what other people do or don't do. It feels like compassion, peacefulness and a constant return to balance. When I am patient I feel like I can attempt anything and be my most funky self without attachment to the result. Yoga always teaches that detaching from the outcome through patience will bring peace of mind.
So rather than procrastinating what we really want to try we just do it accepting that the trying is the yummy fun part. Patience feels like unconditional love and acceptance. There are no ego issues when we are patient. You know what I mean, that feeling that if something doesn't happen right now in just the way we want it then it's not good enough. When Patient our minds stop playing the old games of pushing, pulling, creating anxiety, distrust, stress or simple heavy expectations.
Gosh if we could just take a lesson from the Moon. Do you know that that moon's trajectory follows the Sun's trajectory, only 6 months later; the full moon in winter comes as high as the Sun in the Summer. And it takes the Moon 18.6 YEARS TO FULFILL ONE COMPLETE ORBIT! I love this! If it takes the moon 18.6 years to complete 1 cycle well then in downward facing dog we really have 18.6 years to attempt it completely for one full time don't you think? If the moon requires 18.6 years to process its orbit then we can try anything new we want to and give ourselves 18.6 years to really refine it.
Yoga is NOT a quick fix. Yoga is like the cycle of the moon. It takes a long time, consistent practice and a whole lot of patience is developed while trying. So today through infinite patience may we all demonstrate unconditional love and excitement for life! Be your FUNKY Self! No need to pressure ourselves, give yourself at least 18.6 years on attempting any one thing. Love yourself, love your day, love your life! Silvia
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DOWN WITH PROCRASTINATION ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT
SEPTEMBER 4, 2010: From the teachings of yoga a teacher shared with a teacher that shared with a teacher that shared with teacher Pamela Bliss who shared with me, "One of the most profound bits of wisdom shared with me in a teaching yoga is that procrastination is severely detrimental to one's development on the spiritual path." For me the truth of Yoga is that if you practice regularly you see swift changes mentally, emotionally and physically. And if you step away from your practice chances are inertia takes over and it is epically difficult to get back on the mat again. Or as Jon Kabat Zinn says, "not practicing is a form of practice." And the follow up from my friend Dr. Gregg "so how's that working for you?"
"The fault is in the one who blames. Spirit sees nothing to criticize." RUMI
This is not about blaming ourselves for our shortcomings. Not at all. Instead just think of yoga as TRUTH SERUM (SATYA SERUM). The body doesn't lie. When you are on one leg balancing and your mind is in a million places you will fall out of that 1 legged balance for sure. If you are in a warrior pose and your leg is shaking after not practicing yoga all summer well, not doing something has resulted in your muscles responding by shaking when they didn't do that when you took action and came to class 3 times per week. On the other hand your life is not a dress rehearsal so be happy you are pushing all your poses to that point you call the soft edge.
To me there are 2 kinds of procrastinators: (1) those that have gotten off the couch and attempted and (2) those that have never fully tried. Interestingly, just because you might fall into category #1 of procrastinators doesn't guarantee you momentum. For that you have to stay engaged. So whether you've tried a little, a lot, or not at all procrastination in any of its forms will stunt your spiritual development. You will forever stay a Spiritual Baby and never evolved towards spiritual toddlerhood or adolescence or adulthood. The path is sequential.
I have healed myself of procrastination is through yoga and my spiritual practices that support my yoga, because I grew up enough to ask for help from the universe. The reason I would often get paralyzed by procrastination was I was afraid of having to do everything by myself, I even felt like I had to always offer my prayers for others but never for me. "Where did you get that idea you aren't allowed to petition the universe with prayer? You are part of this universe. You're a constituent - you have every entitlement to participate in the actions of the universe, and to let your feelings be known. So put your opinion out there. Make your case. Believe me - it will at least be taken into consideration." -Elizabeth Gilbert from Eat, Pray, Love
So start now or reboot, or restart today. Stop blaming, stop waiting for everything to be perfect, stop postponing your happiness and just ASK FOR WHAT YOU WANT! And keep asking, continue the momentum. And if you want a really easy way to to keep up with yourself and your intentions well then make regular, consistent appointments with your yoga mat and I promise you will see your life blossom beyond your wildest intentions! Love yourself, love your day, love your life! Silvia
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NO MORE PROCRASTINATING SET YOUR GOALS TODAY
May 16, 2010 Finally after 3-4 years of procrastinating I set out to finish up a project yesterday and I did! It took all of an hour. Yup. That’s right. I spent years worrying about, putting it off, debating it, starting and stopping it but when all was said and done it took one hour. Spiritual practice has taught me that procrastinating is a perfectionist tendancy. And as one psychologist I read years ago put it, “perfectionism is the worst form of self-abuse.” So I am back on track and went back to basics asking myself “what are my goals: personal, professional and health related”? What are your’s? In class we wrote them out for ourselves. I would love for you to do this now in 5 minutes.
Then consider what is it that prevents you from going for your goals more fully and making them and keeping them important enough to check in on week to week? I would hazard to guess that the traitors of self-doubt and fear influence us to procrastinate. The antidote is to stay actively involved in your life yet slowing down enough to remember to wake up to what improves the quality of your life. What if everything you ever wanted came true? Yogic practice stands up to say of course that is not only possible it is your birthright to co-create with the universe the life of your deepest dreams, to tap into your greatest potential. So why not start today?
To help us take a moment to write in your Accomplishment Journal about all the things you’ve accomplished this week. Use this in tandem with your goals and intentions to see how far you’ve already come and to provide yourself the validation you need to know you can do this! Don’t put anything off a moment longer that holds meaning to you. Heed the words of Danna Falds and FALL AWAKE to your life! Love yourself, love your day, love your life! Silvia
Soul Prayer by Danna Falds
“Lord, grant that I may fall awake, and not miss a moment of the mystery.
Dancing with the dawn, may I draw this day to my breast like a lover.
Rocked with laughter, let me lay waste the fields of doubt and fear,
finding there nor more substance than dandelion seeds flying weightless on the breeze.”
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At times I have felt defeated by life.
All I ever wanted was to be peaceful, happy and free. But I had this idea even with spiritual seeking “let me figure it all out then I’ll practice it.” But that’s not the way it works. We are not going to get all the answers we seek about the challenges of life. This procrastination could be applied to any part of our lives. Today I am examining it in relation to happiness. So here’s the thing, if we think something has to happen before we can be happier then we’re always waiting to be happy as opposed to being happy right now. If you fool yourself to believe that you have to understand all the reasons for WHY you are not happy you get stuck in the unhappiness. There is something to be said for forgive and move on from past to present.
Stop procrastinating the time you have by coming up with reasons not to be happy. This is not only self-defeating to you but does a disservice to the world, to your family, to your community, to fellow human beings.
So learn from my trials and errors: Don’t lose any more time trying to figure out or solve the mystery of unhappiness just live more right now. How? First thing, just feel more. Anything – sadness, anger, love, joy, frustration. All of it. The more you feel the less you fight against the feeling and the greater the capacity to accept yourself. So this is the second thing, love yourself as you are without apology. Please stop putting prerequisites on your own acceptance (if I lose 10 pounds, get a new job, finish a marathon, etc). Spiritual growth is not about self-improvement otherwise as we all know we’ll never be good enough (just like we’re never quite done with the work on improving our homes). Instead spiritual maturity is unconditional love towards our lives as they are offered.
I used to be a destination junky. Then I read Jon Kabat Zinn’s book titled ‘Wherever you go there you are”. I woke up to the fact that waiting to be happy until I was somewhere far away never really worked. I still had me and how I felt about me no matter how exotic the location or distance from my office. I had to face myself honestly and say, “I am hungry for love.” Just as Mother Teresa spoke, “The hunger for love is much more difficult to remove than the hunger for bread.” I felt that hunger.
The hunger cannot be quenched by buying stuff, or by other people loving you, or going to cool places it has to be some internal shift of self-recognition that moves us to self-acceptance. As soon as I started loving myself I wasn’t starving anymore. I knew I had plenty. That was the first day I made a commitment to my own healing.
So I ask you, how much do you want to live a healing lifestyle? Only you can make the choice to choose love and happiness moment by moment.
Of course in my heart I want you all to find that this practice saves your life TODAY as it does mine daily. I want you to love yourself more and in turn feel how loved you are by the universe herself. As Sutra 11.42 reads “when at peace and content with oneself and others (santosha) supreme joy is celebrated.” You hold the key to your own happiness. Question is do you have the courage to take time today without delay to fall in love with yourself more deeply. Are you ready to celebrate? You are everything, you have all you need to be happy. Let’s not waste another moment! Love yourself, love your day, love your life! Silvia