Best Costume Ever

  By Laura Mills

  With Halloween just past I’ve been thinking about disguises.  Like most kids I loved October 31. Over the course of my younger years I disguised myself as, among other things, Pebbles Flintstone, Raggedy Ann, a princess, a witch, a hippie (several times!), and a cat. But Halloween, of course, isn’t just for kids; for plenty of adults, dressing up as someone or something else is just...FUN.  

  Putting the festiveness of Halloween aside, I’m wondering why we love disguises so much. Not only on Halloween—after all, a disguise doesn’t require a mask, whiskers and a tail, or even unfamiliar clothes. However we go about it, we find comfort in fooling others about our identity, in others’ not knowing whom we really are. Think about it…as children, who among us didn’t at one time or another want to be invisible? Then, with time dawned the knowledge that we couldn’t make ourselves disappear, but we could do anything but. Now, short of donning fake fangs or a wig, we devise countless ways of hiding the person we are on the inside. Maybe it’s the tremendous relief from self-consciousness….

  Years ago, when I taught high school science, every October at least one student would ask me about my upcoming Halloween costume. I would always joke, “I’m going to be a chemistry teacher.” Today, I see the actual seriousness of that statement. The most difficult disguise to wear is no disguise at all. Appearing as the real you—heart, soul, and everything in between, within and without—is more frightening than dressing up in even the scariest Halloween costume. But I have no doubt it’s also the most worthwhile way to let the world see you. 

11/1/2012   Tags:  Laura Mills, Halloween, disguise, costume, self-consciousness Direct Link

SELF-ACCEPTANCE BY GUEST BLOGGER MARA CAMPBELL

OCTOBER 28, 2009:   Halloween is just around the corner. A chance for putting on costumes and becoming someone else for a little while. This idea of wanting to change who we are I believe represents as Donna Farhi says, "the enormous challenge of self-acceptance" we all face on a daily basis. 

When we practice yoga or meditate, we begin to see ourselves a little deeper and clearer; and sometimes it is not all sunshine and roses that we uncover in ourselves, right?! I recently had 2 clients tell me that what is hard about practicing yoga regularly is this intimacy with yourself and that it can be scarey and painful at times. I completely get this as I've pulled away from my spiritual practice and my life at certain times, not wanting to be seen. But I always find that hiding and contraction always lead me to more fear. Yoga and self acceptance are about finding a way to be at home with yourself; the good, the bad, the ugly AND the beauty.  What yoga teaches us is that our true nature really is compassionate, loving, peaceful, honest and free. Our true nature is always waiting for us whether we decide to align with it or not. As Parker Palmer says, "I will always have fear, but I need not be my fear, for I have other places within myself from which to speak or act." 

In the sacred text, The Bhagavad Gita, Krishna talks to Arjuna, who is questioning if he is ready to go to battle, even though he is a very skilled warrior. Krishna says, "You are empowered as the forces you are able to cultivate in yourself. Take the beauty of who you are....that beauty will lead you your gifts. Better to do your own duty badly, than to perfectly do another's." Tantra gives us permission for our lives to be messy, complicated, mysterious, delicious, diverse and just amazing. Now that is a costume I want to wear! 

I know we will all have fun dressing up, being someone or something else for Halloween. But eventually, let's all enjoy coming back to being ourselves. I promise you the fit will be just right, others will love your originality, and there will be a celebration! By you being you, you allow others to be themselves. Please join me for class this week where we will celebrate our uniqueness and work on accepting ourselves right here, right now. I can't thank you all enough for allowing me to be me as a one of your yoga teachers! 

Namaste! Mara

"By your stumbling, the world is perfected." -Sri Arvrobindo
 
10/28/2009   Tags:  self-acceptance, SELF-LOVE, BHAGAVAD GITA, Mara Campbell, HALLOWEEN, FEAR, GOOD Direct Link

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