YOGA IS LIKE DATING
NOVEMBER 2, 2009: If the first yoga pose you did you felt uncomfortable would you give up? It’s like saying if the first person you ever dated you felt a little uncomfortable with would you never date again?
We are really dating the poses, we try them out, some are good fits right away and others take a while to warm up and coax out of their shell. Just like people.
A friend told me this story of when they were in school studying psychology and an assignment was to write out the description of the ideal partner. Well one guy wrote out a serious paper of 100 various requirements in their ideal mate. Then fast forward 20 years and they are at a reunion and this guy is there and his class mates have to ask, “So did you find a person with all 100 things you were looking for?” And he said yes, he did. So guess what did he marry her? Nope, he didn’t feel a fit, even though they had all the qualities…there wasn’t an energetic connection.
Ok well it’s the same with these poses. You might think you know what you want and then come to realize there is a greater benefit to what you didn’t even know you were looking for but felt right. So give it time dudes.
We will build our practice tonight in a progressive way. This is like how we might meet or date people in our life that we learn from, might not be our life partner but we take lessons from them and apply to the next relationship. It’s like that with yoga: class to class, pose to pose. Enjoy it all and learn from each relationship, each pose and embrace your life more fully! Love in all ways, Silvia
BUMPING INTO OUR LIMITATIONS
Now we have a choice. We can stay in the “comfort” zone a little apathetic or not totally turned on by life. What a friend once had described to him as “flat lining” one’s life. You know how this feels. Everything is just OK. Spiritual practice implores us to live life more than OK. That we need not give up when we meet uncomfortable situations for that’s exactly when we are about to break free. The author Jaimal Yogis says, “the story you’ve been telling, you know the one, about the way you have to compromise that dream. Bend that rule. Cut the cornerstone of logic for breakfast. That story is old and tired. Do you see how FREE you are without it?
Please don’t compromise your life, this one life any longer. Be uncomfortable. Face the fear, the discomfort to live your life heroically. It is really the only way. As I wish myself my own best strength I offer you the same. Let’s all just go for living the adventure of life! Love to you, Silvia
“A man practices the art of adventure when he heroically faces up to life; When he has the daring to open doors to new experiences and to step boldly forth to explore strange horizons. When he is unafraid of new ideas, new theories and new philosophies. When he has the curiosity to experiment--to test and try new ways of living and thinking. When he has the flexibility to adjust and adapt himself to the changing patterns of life. When he refuses to seek safe places and easy tasks and has, instead, the courage to wrestle with the toughest problems. When he has the moral stamina to be steadfast in the support of those men in whom he has faith and those causes in which he believes. When he breaks the chain of routine and renews his life through reading new books, traveling to new places, making new friends, taking up new hobbies and adopting new viewpoints. When he has the nerve to move out of life's shallows and venture forth into the deep. When he keeps his heart young, his expectations high and never allows his dreams to die. When he concludes that a rut is only another name for the grave and that the only way to stay out of the ruts is by living adventurously and staying vitally alive every day of his life. By Wilfred Peterson. Source: The art of living, Albert W. Daw Collection
APPRECIATION OF THIS MOMENT
There is that tendency we have to want things to be different than what they are but spiritual maturity impresses upon us to learn how to find a way to be content with what is in the present for it is a gift. To help with this growth simply listen to your heart as you watch your thoughts. This study of oneself will open up channels of stuckness in both the physical body and channels to deep reservoirs of clarity and wisdom within our minds. This cultivates appreciation. And there is an inherent gentleness when we practice appreciation for who we are. Please make your observations not from a place of judgement but of understanding, compassion and self-love. Know that you dissolve negativity through appreciation for this is the real enemy of love. Practice appreciation and love triumphs!
So today take time to appreciate your breath, to appreciate your feelings (whatever they may be – joy, sadness, peace, frustration, love), appreciate being in your own skin. I know this is not easy. Just like the poses we practice on the mat are not easy. They are often very uncomfortable.
So I’m asking you to be uncomfortable. To actually stay with the discomfort of your reactivity until you can turn it into a loving response. With time you’ll find the action of appreciation gets easier and this is the answer to dissolving the negative from all areas of your life. And as luck has it life is going to keep giving us opportunities to evolve this practice. From one perspective what we are talking about here is Santosha, to be with what is and find the good, experiencing contentment within the situation, with the person instead of getting angry or having to change the thing, situation, weather or person. Now that’s the advancing of our spiritual selves. Let the door of appreciation open the way. Love you, love serving you! Silvia